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Modern Intimacy’s Gift Guide: Gifts to Enhance Communication

For many people, the holidays are an opportunity to spend time with loved ones and connect with them. Whether you’re looking to deepen your romantic relationships, platonic relationships, or family relationships, these gifts can help you get there. Here are some gift recommendations that will help you be curious about the people in your life and ultimately build a stronger relationship.

Modern Intimacy is not making money off this gift guide. These are our recommendations.

intimacy mirror

intimacy mirror

“The Mirror of Intimacy is a daily reflection book on sensual and emotional intelligence. It can be a great tool to start a sensual ritual in the new year. Take time each day or as you see fit to explore the topics and answer related questions. Reply. Developing deep emotional and sensual intimacy can help you create the sex life you want. If you can find it, the hardcover edition of this book is a gem.” , Heather “Lulu” Mazei, ASW

talk, flirt, dare

talk, flirt, dare

“A fun and romantic game to engage in practical, daring, or sexy conversation on your next date night.” , Imani Reynolds, AMFT

{The End} Duet Version

{The End} Duet Version

“This game is designed to create deep conversations by asking meaningful questions. The great thing about {The End} conversation cards is that you can get different versions including dating, couples, long term relationships, friends, kids, strangers, and yourself.” {The End} is a communication enhancer that you can use with any relationship you want to strengthen.- Brooke Brownlee, APCC

Where Should We Begin: A Game of Stories

where should we start

“This card game is the ultimate intimacy enhancer! Creating opportunities for you to strengthen both platonic and romantic intimacy through conversation and stories. – Rachel Overvoll, Somatic Sex Coach

dating card

dating card

“Whether you’re dating someone new or years into your relationship, it can be fun to learn new things about each other or have discussions that haven’t happened before. This fun card game serves as a great communication and connection enhancer for couples to get to know each other and connect a little deeper. , Kayla Tricaso, Office Manager and Patient Intake Specialist

This holiday season, you might consider connecting more deeply with your loved ones by gifting them one of these items designed to enhance communication.

Quick Tips to Improve Your Communication Skills

Effective communication skills are often learned. Many people do not grow up with the best models of healthy communication and, thus, often have to learn on their own in adulthood. The importance of communication should not be underestimated. Read on for some key pointers on how you can communicate effectively with those people in your life.

practice active listening

Active listening is a type of communication technique that encourages you to really pay attention to what the person you are talking to is saying. It may sound simple, but active listening doesn’t come naturally to many people. If you’re the kind of person who struggles to interrupt or wait your turn to speak, it can be beneficial to try actively listening and see how the conversation becomes more meaningful and connecting. Active listening is a great tool that can be useful in both personal and professional relationships.

don’t forget nonverbal cues

Nonverbal communication can be just as important as verbal communication by reading facial expressions, gestures and eye contact. When you talk to someone face-to-face, pay close attention to what you’re seeing instead of what you’re afraid of to improve your communication skills.

How are your written communication skills?

In the highly digital world we live in, much of the communication we do takes place electronically, be it email, texting, or even written letters. Written communication skills are beneficial to personal relationships, but also have the potential to improve communication skills in the workplace.

move away when triggered

When it comes to heated discussion or conflict, know when it’s time to stop or take a break from an emotionally charged conversation. Having an emotionally charged conversation often doesn’t help when you’re feeling energized because words can more easily be thrown around that can’t be taken back. If you notice that you’re struggling to communicate without spiraling into anger, take a step back and offer to resume or end the conversation when you’ve had time to regulate.

don’t believe

For those who struggle with communication, it may be easier to ask how someone is feeling rather than to ask them. For example, if you are talking to your partner and feel that they might be angry with you instead of obeying. Ask your partner how they are feeling. They may become irritable due to lack of sleep or work stress. If they are angry with you, this is a good opportunity to deal directly with them instead of avoiding confrontation.

people can’t read your mind

Keep in mind that you and others are not mind readers, so without proper communication, it can be hard to know what someone’s needs are and how to best meet them. If you feel upset that your partner is not doing their fair share of the household chores, it is beneficial to talk to them rather than hoping that they will eventually realize that you need more help around the house.

Happy Holidays from Dr. Kate Balestrieri and the Modern Intimacy Team!